On Being In Sync With Others
I went to a dinner party last night. Not one time throughout the entire evening was I asked a single question about myself.
Admittedly I was a bit of an outsider for many reasons, one being that all the other guests worked together. So the entire conversation during the dinner was centered on their work.
Thing is, they didn’t ask each other questions either. They just sort of threw out egocentric statements about this drama they had to deal with, or that situation they had to overcome. This good or bad experience and that failure or accomplishment.
In addition to me being completely out of the loop, they were all talking at each other but not conversing with each other and the whole evening felt so disconnected … so out of sync.
When we get so caught up in our own little worlds we develop narcissistic tendencies that restrict the flow of energy from one to another.
Developing human connections is so much about symmetry – about balancing when you give with when you take, and seeking harmony in your correspondence.
It’s also about synergy to the extent that you create richer interactions through the collective energy of the group.