No Need to Breed
As someone approaching my mid-30s but who feels no rush to procreate (and would actually be ok if I never had kids), I deeply appreciate this recent article by actress Joy Bryant. She provides blunt and honest but still heartfelt reasoning as to why she doesn't want kids and why it's inappropriate for other people — especially women — to judge her for that personal choice.
In an expert from the article she says:
Motherhood, in all its beautiful significance, is a job I do not want. It doesn't matter how great my résumé is or how many glowing recommendations I receive. I don't need to be a mother in order to be fulfilled in my life. I am choosing to put my life energies into pursuing all that my heart desires: designing clothes, writing, traveling, developing projects to produce. One of those projects just might feature a woman who is not afraid to make unpopular choices.
My takeaway is less about the notion of whether you should or shouldn't start a family, and more about the fact that many of life's complexities derive from the pressures of societal norms.
If you are to live simply you'll need to figure out your own way of balancing what you want to do and how you want to live with the feedback from family, friends, colleagues, strangers, institutions, the media, and so on.
Though this is no easy feat, Joy shows us that courage is an instrumental tool in navigating, processing, and ultimately determining how you'll let all those disparate inputs ultimately weigh into your decisions.
Read Joy's full article "Stop Telling Me I Should Have Kids" on Lenny Letters here.